Myrodis19 Posted May 9, 2011 Report Share Posted May 9, 2011 Ok, since you all helped me out with my last problem i figured I'd come to you guys with another. This one not so serious just a little nerve wrecking. I am 20 going to collage the semester is about to end, my friends and i want to get a place together. Counting me there will be 4 people, and the rent will be 1000 per month. I have 2000 dollars saved up already, but no job and cannot drive. The place is in the city so i can walk everywhere so that's not the problem. What i want to know is what is a good way to tell your mother you want to move out? Also i am a single child with no father. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koby Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Well between 4 of you that puts each persons part at $250 for just the rent, not counting all the utilities and any extras such as internet, etc. $2,000 doesn't last nearly as long as you think it might. You might want to ensure you got a steady income before moving out. Why is it you can't drive? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myrodis19 Posted May 10, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Well Koby i just never got my license is all i can get it whenever i want though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hōtarō Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 I'm moving out next year. There is no secret to telling your mother. You just tell her. I told mine out of the blue and she accepted it. If you're worried about her being alone, you can call her, Skype with her, go and visit, have her visit...all sorts of things. Even if you're moving out of city/state. Maybe go to see her on Holidays and call her every other day if you're worried. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myrodis19 Posted May 10, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 I'm moving out next year. There is no secret to telling your mother. You just tell her. I told mine out of the blue and she accepted it. If you're worried about her being alone, you can call her, Skype with her, go and visit, have her visit...all sorts of things. Even if you're moving out of city/state. Maybe go to see her on Holidays and call her every other day if you're worried.Honestly that is one of my biggest fears the money thing i can deal with just my mom being lonely is another thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hōtarō Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Honestly that is one of my biggest fears the money thing i can deal with just my mom being lonely is another thing.I'm sure. It was one of my fears moving out as well - I'll be moving out, my siblings will be moving out, and she has no husband. But you have to remember that they have friends (at least, I'd assume yours does) and just because you're not in the same house doesn't mean you two can't talk. You can always call them, text them, IM them, email, visit on weekends...all those sorts of things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VolvoKing Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Have a good heart to heart talk with her. Tell her everything is going to be all right. She will understand it is time to cut the apron strings and let you go but keep in strong contact with her and if it doesn't work out you still have the option to go back home. No matter what moms always love there children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasoivc Posted May 11, 2011 Report Share Posted May 11, 2011 I'm sure. It was one of my fears moving out as well - I'll be moving out, my siblings will be moving out, and she has no husband. But you have to remember that they have friends (at least, I'd assume yours does) and just because you're not in the same house doesn't mean you two can't talk. You can always call them, text them, IM them, email, visit on weekends...all those sorts of things.Minh's got it right on the money if you're worried about your mother's loneliness factor. Get her a pet dog/cat if you're afraid communication and weekly/monthly visits aren't enough; my mother finds some happiness in my little sister's Shihtzu just because its part of the family now.My mom offered to pay for my gasoline/food if I stay home and commute to college when I graduate high school, so I guess I have more incentive to stay here but I feel its my responsibility to help pay for the bills once I hit 18 - I just have too much pride in myself to make my mom suffer more than she needs to, she did give birth to me and nurtured me for 18 years by herself (yeah, I have no father as you Myro; long story short, I don't consider myself to have ever had a father as he left my mother right after I was born.)Financially, Koby is also correct when he said $2,000 won't last you very long. If you use that $2,000 strictly for Rent - It'll last you 8 months? Plus or minus more when it comes to Utilities and such. I asked realistically to my friend about how much of a difference $10,000-$20,000 made, he told me it might cover my very first car, but other than that the 20 grand would disappear as fast as it came into my pocket (Because I considered applying for scholarships to use towards college/or buying a new car right off the lot). The average american makes 1 million dollars, plus or minus, in their entire life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seirachan Posted May 12, 2011 Report Share Posted May 12, 2011 Well start looking for a job before you move out, you wont be able to keep up on the $250 rent on just $2,000 and what happens if one of your friends can't pay?(just seems like the typical thing when a bunch of friends move out together at least one wont pay rent) With your mother it's simple just to call her and visit. Don't worry about telling her, shes a mother she knows her kids gotta move out sometime. Just blurt it out no pressure I doubt she'll chain you to a chair and force you to stay lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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