NickthePwn3r Posted November 23, 2012 Report Share Posted November 23, 2012 Currently being depressed from my gf of 10months almost 11 telling me she spontaneously has fallen out of love with me on thanksgiving of all days haha. So we are doing the take a break and her think about it in the mean time. So during this time I was drinking last night and i plan on doing that again starting this afternoon when my friend gets of work perhaps. I find i lack the will power to even play EVE and imma miner,, Cant read my book. So i honestly would like to know what in the world does one do in this situation? Note: im not a cutter or anything like that, however i do sometimes punch ma self in the head or otherwise smash head into objects. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
† Emotional Outlet Posted November 24, 2012 Report Share Posted November 24, 2012 What makes you happy? What helps you get your mind off things? Do you have anyone you could hang out with?You could try working out, doing chores, hanging out with friends--just normal stuff. Do something you've been meaning to do like go rock climbing, trying out a new restaurant, or whatever. Stay in touch with your social circle and people who support you. Even if you think there's no one who cares, there's usually at least one! You don't really have to do anything that pulls you out of your comfort zone--even just hanging with a friend and having a few brews while you vent can be good for you as long as you do the talking part and not just drink until you black out, haha. Play a co-op game, even if it's a goofy one like Boom Blox or Mario Party. Play a board game.I mean, there's no real "If you do this, it will make you happy and get you out of this funk" answer. If there was, I would have found it by now and wouldn't be seeing a shrink regularly, haha.I hope it gets better, though, and that things are well with you. You're always free to vent on the forum or shoot me a message! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malyssa Rahl Posted November 24, 2012 Report Share Posted November 24, 2012 First bit of advice. Stop drinking. It will only make you more depressed.Second, people fall in and out of love all the time. Best thing to do is, since you're both just taking a break, and at least one of you is hoping to rekindle the romance, relax, think about the good times, and plan something special to do for her. I don't know what that something is, because I don't know her. I'm sure you can figure it out. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickthePwn3r Posted November 24, 2012 Author Report Share Posted November 24, 2012 Do you mean plan something special to do during the break or something like that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickthePwn3r Posted November 25, 2012 Author Report Share Posted November 25, 2012 Alright i figured something out, I Have writen her a 2 page letter so far, and when we have a sit down i am going to prepare homemade lasagna from scratch hehe going to start practicing tomorrow, do you think this be a good idea? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malyssa Rahl Posted November 26, 2012 Report Share Posted November 26, 2012 Most women love a home cooked meal. Especially one they didn't have to make themselves. The letter, if it seems like a good idea to you based on how well you know her, go for it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark_Angel13 Posted November 26, 2012 Report Share Posted November 26, 2012 The home cooked meal is a good idea but don't ignore the fact you could take her out and shell out a few bucks for her, maybe plan out a whole evening for her if you wanted to. Dinner, movie, maybe buy her a little something. Just another way to go, not saying the other idea isnt good too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myrodis19 Posted November 26, 2012 Report Share Posted November 26, 2012 Since you gave me some advice i want to impart some good or i think good advice to you. Give her space, don't contact her or anything like that, i think even a letter might be out of the question. Let her get back in contact with you do not force her into it or anything. Explore other options yourself, for all you know she wan't the one so you never know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickthePwn3r Posted November 29, 2012 Author Report Share Posted November 29, 2012 Well this no longer matters because she decided to end it >. I must say though I feel SOOOO much better thanks to closure Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark_Angel13 Posted November 29, 2012 Report Share Posted November 29, 2012 Well this no longer matters because she decided to end it > . I must say though I feel SOOOO much better thanks to closureSorry to hear that, I'm glad you got closure at least though and hopefully your next relationship will be better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickthePwn3r Posted December 6, 2012 Author Report Share Posted December 6, 2012 hmm, well now i got closure with the bonus of knowing she cheated on me lol. Them extra's Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dark_Angel13 Posted December 7, 2012 Report Share Posted December 7, 2012 hmm, well now i got closure with the bonus of knowing she cheated on me lol. Them extra'sThat's not the best form of getting closure but okay, sorry she did that to you too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mujklob Posted December 8, 2012 Report Share Posted December 8, 2012 Well this no longer matters because she decided to end itEverything matters. But, I assure you, however awful your experience.... eventually you come to accept that both the duration of the experience and its end are two of the best things to ever happen to you.To combat depression? I find no-one can do this for me except myself. Alcohol only helps you one night at a time, but can often shape your perspective on things to give you new insight--in moderation. Go for a run, listen to uplifting music, meditate, and most importantly... wait patiently. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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