No idea what to do

[seirachan]

yay I quit my job, my bf wont help me out and is taking away everything that keeps me sane. No fucking idea what to do. All I want is him to be with me and give back what keeps me sane. Otherwise there's no fucking way I'm working a day in my life. I'm way to stressed. Hes the only person I know and my only friend. If i let go of him I say bye bye to my life. There are no options on what to do. and asking him to make me feel better wont work. I can't deal with it on my own or with anyone but him.

I just wanna run away for a week and make him miss me. But there is no where to go. I need a solitary room. Only thing I could do is run off to another town and stay at a hotel but then that's hundreds of dollars gone when I have no income.

there is not a single thing to do here. Just sulk in my depression for all eternity until he helps me if he will.

[† Talena Mae]

I think you need to go see a doctor, anyone you can sit down and have a nice long talk with. There are options available to you, you just need to have a nice long chat to someone in the health care profession and spill your guts (as in tell them every thing big and small without being shy, they will not judge you. Quite to opposite in fact, that will think you a strong person for coming forward with all your troubles).

The worst I can see happening is you going to hospital for a little to sort out your head and a prescription for antidepressants.

As I keep telling people, you need to look after yourself first. you sort out your head, make friends and soon you will have a support network you need. but please go talk to someone and ask them for help.

[seirachan]

I think you need to go see a doctor, anyone you can sit down and have a nice long talk with. There are options available to you, you just need to have a nice long chat to someone in the health care profession and spill your guts (as in tell them every thing big and small without being shy, they will not judge you. Quite to opposite in fact, that will think you a strong person for coming forward with all your troubles).

The worst I can see happening is you going to hospital for a little to sort out your head and a prescription for antidepressants.

As I keep telling people, you need to look after yourself first. you sort out your head, make friends and soon you will have a support network you need. but please go talk to someone and ask them for help.

Like I said, only him. I really wouldn't care for talking to them. It wouldn't solve anything at all. I talked to them before when I was younger and was forced once cause my moms a retard, didn't do a thing.

[† Mute point]

I hate giving advice over the internet.. no matter how you word it, it always comes out pretentious and judgemental at best, but here goes..

Depending so much on a single person, especially one who seems to want to control every aspect of your life (getting this from you saying he had "Taken away everything that kept me sane") is not healthy.

My reccomendation, get your job back if you can, and talk to someone else about him, make new friends.. Something more than sitting there waiting for him to make everything better.. because in my experience, it won't happen.

[seirachan]

I hate giving advice over the internet.. no matter how you word it, it always comes out pretentious and judgemental at best, but here goes..

Depending so much on a single person, especially one who seems to want to control every aspect of your life (getting this from you saying he had "Taken away everything that kept me sane") is not healthy.

My reccomendation, get your job back if you can, and talk to someone else about him, make new friends.. Something more than sitting there waiting for him to make everything better.. because in my experience, it won't happen.

Imposable to make a single friend after highschool btw 99.9% of people you run into are trash

[† Mute point]

In this case, "impossible" is another way of saying "I'm not going to try" I've made several new friends after high school.. Only a few of them are as close as the ones I've had since elementary school, but I've still made them.

As for 99.9% of people being trash.. I don't know where you get that from, but from my own experience, I would say that the number is less than 50%. It's true that not everyone you meet is going to immediately love worship and adore you, but that doesn't make them trash.

[seirachan]

In this case, "impossible" is another way of saying "I'm not going to try" I've made several new friends after high school.. Only a few of them are as close as the ones I've had since elementary school, but I've still made them.

As for 99.9% of people being trash.. I don't know where you get that from, but from my own experience, I would say that the number is less than 50%. It's true that not everyone you meet is going to immediately love worship and adore you, but that doesn't make them trash.

If you lived in my town.. yeah people try to knife you all the time and that shit. any good people hide in their homes

[† Mute point]

Then the obvious answer is to get out of that town.

[seirachan]

Then the obvious answer is to get out of that town.

na I'm kinda stuck here so I can be with my bf and he has his few friends here which don't really care to be mine as well but I'm not gonna force them lol. but my bf totally agrees with me on friends are nearly impossible to make and that counseling does nothing. He has bi-polar and a lot of issues in that matter and those people only make it worse and told him because hes not a women he can't go on disability.

[→Speed←]

I know I am a guy so you probably don't want my opinions.. but I like helping friends..(online friends are all I've got and I consider them real friends..) soo anyway.. nothing like that(making friends and such) is always impossible if you want/try to make it happen.. From what you have said about him it sounds like you both are really close so I understand why you only want to talk to him about personal stuff(rather than a counselor or someone that you can vent to.. which actually has helped me) but everyone needs to vent sometimes and no matter how much two people love each other.. venting to each other every day about stuff will eventually make one or both of the couple annoyed..

"and those people only make it worse and told him because hes not a women he can't go on disability." that is NOT true.. I dont know where you live but that is actualy not true and I know it for a fact.. I have SS(disability) because of adhd, add, etc.. but my mom has alot of depression and is bi polar to the MAX lol(shes nuts.......lies alot lol..) anyway she was declined for disability benefits more than a few times (every time she applied) long story short I(a guy) have it and she(a women) doesnt..

About the "quitting job because he has one" thing.. That is never a good idea for alot of reasons.. Number one, its "his" money(I might know the type of guy he is.. that's why I'm saying that based off an assumption). Number two, he might love you alot but what if he leaves? there is always the possibility.. then you will be homeless soon after because you aren't an independent person and have no job/money. YOU ARE ONLY STUCK BECAUSE YOU DEPEND ON HIM! Sorry for the "shout text" but that is 100% true!

I typed alot more than I ever do for anyone just trying to help you in some way.. so hope I helped even just a little my friend

[seirachan]

I know I am a guy so you probably don't want my opinions.. but I like helping friends..(online friends are all I've got and I consider them real friends..) soo anyway.. nothing like that(making friends and such) is always impossible if you want/try to make it happen.. From what you have said about him it sounds like you both are really close so I understand why you only want to talk to him about personal stuff(rather than a counselor or someone that you can vent to.. which actually has helped me) but everyone needs to vent sometimes and no matter how much two people love each other.. venting to each other every day about stuff will eventually make one or both of the couple annoyed..

"and those people only make it worse and told him because hes not a women he can't go on disability." that is NOT true.. I dont know where you live but that is actualy not true and I know it for a fact.. I have SS(disability) because of adhd' date=' add, etc.. but my mom has alot of depression and is bi polar to the MAX lol(shes nuts.......lies alot lol..) anyway she was declined for disability benefits more than a few times (every time she applied) long story short I(a guy) have it and she(a women) doesnt..

About the "quitting job because he has one" thing.. That is never a good idea for alot of reasons.. Number one, its "his" money(I might know the type of guy he is.. that's why I'm saying that based off an assumption). Number two, he might love you alot but what if he leaves? there is always the possibility.. then you will be homeless soon after because you aren't an independent person and have no job/money. YOU ARE ONLY STUCK BECAUSE YOU DEPEND ON HIM! Sorry for the "shout text" but that is 100% true!

I typed alot more than I ever do for anyone just trying to help you in some way.. so hope I helped even just a little my [u']friend

wait what? he has no job and we don't live together. I live with my mom and hes with his dad, I don't want that complication. But mr and you live in different places and he was pretty mad at that psychiatrist. But I gotta run

[Kasoivc]

Lol, Friends are friends regardless of where you meet them. Be it a coffee shop or just online friends you play games with; If it weren't for the internet, I would have no friends from Canada. (I literally game with like, 75% of my friends who all live in Canada).

I can understand really what Speed just posted and I'd like to put my two cents towards his "Too Dependent, Not Individualistic Enough" campaign. Solely relying on just one person isn't enough. I generally only open up to my school mates instead of my relatives - but I only talk "money" to my relatives and none of my peers. Are all of us at Kametsu not "friends" enough? The fact that you posted here, and that several of us flock her to provide sympathy should prove enough that we exist as "non-trashy" people and there is some sort of relationship between us.

And the way you worded it, your boyfriend doesn't seem very well suited for you if he's not really helping you all that much. Especially if he's "taking away you're sanity" so... then again if you're life is centered around him, there must be more of a meaning to it then what you initially say.