Five "Love" Languages

[† Emotional Outlet]

It's a little quiz thing you can take to see what your "love language" is. [Link.]

It was something shown to me by one of my therapists, and I think it easily applies to outside of romantic situations. I'll use myself as an example. Here are my scores:

8 Words of Affirmation

4 Quality Time

5 Receiving Gifts

8 Acts of Service

5 Physical Touch

In this case, my highest scores are "words of affirmation" and "acts of service"--which isn't to be confused with some fetish thing or whatever. In a romantic sense, this would be things like saying "I love you", "you make me happy", &c and doing things like cleaning the toilet, doing the laundry, buying groceries, or filling up the car. In terms of friendship, it's things like backing up your bro, helping them move, busting them out of jail, house/baby/cat/fish/dog-sitting, &c.

I guess quality time isn't as important to me since I'm used to not being able to spend a lot of time with people, mostly due to moving a lot, so I find value in my relationships elsewhere.

I also did the apology quiz, so if you guys want to know what the best way to apologise to me is, there you go, haha.

0 Expressing Regret

16 Accepting Responsibility

3 Making Restitution

1 Genuinely Repenting

0 Requesting Forgiveness

I am apparently really biased. Also some of the options seemed really sarcastic to me, so it made me less inclined to pick them, haha.

[zx0]

Well I just took it as a husband and got this:

8 Words of Affirmation

6 Quality Time

1 Receiving Gifts

5 Acts of Service

10 Physical Touch

Though for most of the questions I would have answered 'NEITHER' if there was that option. I had to pick between two things I didn't want, care about or agree with.

Edit:

I also just finished the apology one. I actually thought this test was much better than the love one

8 Expressing Regret

4 Accepting Responsibility

5 Making Restitution

2 Genuinely Repenting

1 Requesting Forgiveness

I think the answers for me varied a lot depending if it was a social or work situation.

In social situations I usually just want them to say sorry. In a work situation I want restitution.

[Kasoivc]

Love Language:

5 Words of Affirmation

11 Quality Time

1 Receiving Gifts

3 Acts of Service

10 Physical Touch

I'm not much of a gift person, so it makes sense, and I'm not big on words but actions, so it's reasonable for those to be so low imho. Quality Time and Touch just kind of go hand in hand with each other in my honest opinion. Like, I'm with my girlfriend enough that I feel content yet and I'm beyond the point where I can go do things with her around where I won't feel embarrassed, like shower or use the bathroom.

3 Expressing Regret

7 Accepting Responsibility

4 Making Restitution

4 Genuinely Repenting

2 Requesting Forgiveness

I'm actually surprised these scores are low. (Like nowhere near 20 as the test said). But accepting responsibility does fit me well. I try to weasel out of having to make up for losses but when it comes down to it, it's nothing new to me for accepting my place in the situation.